Today, May 19, marks our 37th wedding anniversary. On that Saturday evening in May, 37 years ago, Denise Rose Bos and James Craig Ackerman became Mr. and Mrs. Ackerman.
It was a great day, and I can’t imagine having made a different decision on a life partner. There’s a song from the Lerner and Loewe musical Brigadoon entitled “There But For You Go I”. I remember singing this song as Tommy to Fiona in our high school production in the fall of 1970. I don’t think I’ve ever sung it as Jim to Denise, but I should have. The lyrics go something like this:
This is hard to say, but as I wandered through the lea,
I felt for just a fleeting moment that
I suddenly was free of being lonely.
Then I closed my eyes and saw the very reason why.
I saw a man with his head bowed low.
His heart had no place to go.
I looked and I thought to myself with a sigh:
There but for you go I.
I saw a man walking by the sea,
Alone with the tide was he.
I looked and I thought as I watched him go by:
There but for you go I.
Lonely men around me, trying not to cry,
Till the day you found me, there among them was I.
I saw a man who had never known a love that was all his own.
I thought as I thanked all the stars in the sky:
There, but for you, go I.
It hasn’t been all that easy, we were both very strong-willed. Actually, the only reason we were able to make it this far is because we were committed to honoring God in our marriage and in our lives, and by His grace we have been able to do that. We made a commitment to God and a commitment to each other, and determined that we had no choice but to love each other, even when we had differences of opinion. It was a matter of neither of us taking control, but rather relinquishing control and letting God have control of our lives individually and as a couple. You know, it’s still a struggle for me on a daily basis.
There’s another song that fits in well here, and it’s been a favorite of ours for some time. It’s sung by Larnelle Harris, and is titled “Were It Not For Grace”. It’s another “what if” scenario, but on a much grander scale. The chorus tells the story:
I can tell you where I’d be –
Wandering down some pointless road to nowhere
With my salvation up to me.
I know how that would go,
The battles I would face,
Forever running, but losing the race,
Were it not for grace.
We’ve been a few places together. We’ve lived in Michigan most of our lives, starting and raising our young family in Bath, but spent some time in Kansas (Overland Park and Lawrence), Pennsylvania (Newtown and Feasterville), and the Chicago area (Glendale Heights) before moving back to Michigan, first to Grand Rapids and then Topinabee. Wherever we’ve been, we’ve found that God was there before we were, preparing the way for us and working out the details. I don’t know why that always surprised us.
At every stop God had already planted people so they could step into our lives to help us. Whether it was the family and friends pictured here, who were a part of our start together, a small group Bible study with Jeff and Martha Rudd in Overland Park, homemade gnocchi at the Bruders’ or singing around the grand piano with Ed and Elaine Eichner in Feasterville, there was no end of encouragers in our life at every stop.
This will be a tough anniversary. It is the first we will celebrate without Denise’s mother close by. It seems like wherever we were, Mom was pretty close to lift us up and provide whatever words of encouragement we needed.
Happy anniversary, Denise! I love you.
Look at that picture. definitely the 70’s. lot of water under the bridge!
Thanks for such a sincere testimony, Jim. Congratulations to both of you and praise to the Almighty God for His care of you through so many years! May you enjoy many more blessings as you walk together in obedience and service to the High King…
We had a very nice, quiet, evening out. A good way to begin our 38th year together.
yes the 5th,,, what were we about 12 yrs old??? or is that wishful thinking
You and Chris were what, two weeks ahead of us?
I remember it well
Enjoy the day!
Congrats. Wow, that’s a huge accomplishment! Blessings to you both!
Happy Anniversary!
I feel the very same way, sweetheart! Happy Anniversary — here’s to 37 more 🙂
Have a happy, happy day!!! We will be having our 36th in June. Hug each other for me.
Have a Happy and Blessed Anniversary, Jim and Denise! Today is your very own, special day. Enjoy it, celebrate it, and cherish is as you do each other.